Melody's Tips for New Year's Resolutions
Dec 31, 2019
I was recently called by the Taranaki Daily News to advise on an article for setting, and being successful with, New Year's Resolutions.
Below are my top ten tips for this:
- Limit the number of goals you set yourself. If you set multiple goals, start with the ones you think will be easier – build yourself up for success and let that success build confidence.
- State your goals in the positive – focus on what you want – NOT on what you don’t want. For example, “I want to stop emotional binge eating” is better stated as “I want to find new and healthy ways to balance my emotions”.
- Make your goal as detailed as possible. For example:
- By what date do you want to achieve your goal?
- If it is self- improvement – could you measure it? For example, if you are saving money – how much money and over what time?
- If it is a new activity, what specifically are you doing, how often and for how long?
- Ask yourself, could someone else review my goal and know if I had achieved it?
- Create a clear vision of what you will experience when you have accomplished your goal – be sensory specific – e.g. what would you see, hear or feel in your body having achieved it? Some people use vision boards – with pictures and statements for daily motivation.
- Set goals that are something that you want for yourself, rather than something to please others.
- Some people find it helpful to share their goals with someone they respect as it gives an additional sense of accountability.
- When setting your goal, take some time to think about what might be involved in achieving it and how that might affect other aspects and people in your life. Then plan for this. Some people fail to achieve their goals where they underestimate the cost in time, money and family.
- Once you have set your goals, it is a good idea to plan your first step to get things moving. Make it something you can do within the next 24 hours.
- What resources do you have? For example, refer to your past successes. What new resources .could you access to help you achieve your goal? Is there a group of people working on the same goal? For example, if you want to improve your public speaking, joining a Toastmasters club is a great way to do this.
- It is important to note that these are generic tips only. Everyone is different. If you are serious about progressing goals when you have not had much experience in the past, it is a very good idea to enlist the support of a life coach to help you set and achieve goals in a way that works for you.